Heartbreak fuels the purest forms of creativity. We discover new passions and rediscover old ones as we pick up the shattered pieces, allowing us to relearn how to love. Despite this realization, what seems to be escaping many is that rejection and heartbreak isn't limited to, solely, the romantic aspect of our lives. Our endurance of such things can be experienced in our platonic friendships, our feelings of isolation, our academic career, as well as our work life. Is it simply that we overvalue our romantic relationships, in comparison with other important aspects of our life, when determining our overall happiness level?
In our so-called modernity, we've grown to place an overwhelming amount of importance on our ability to create a family environment amongst our friends, as well as on the "individual" lives we create for ourselves. Despite all of that, when we face rejection, or the possibility of impending heartbreak, in those areas of our lives we find it no where near as daunting as facing it romantically. Does this mean we subconsciously undervalue these aspects of our lives? It's incredibly contradictory how we allow these aspects to dominate our daily lives, allocating only a small portion of the twenty-four hours a day we live to romantic notions, but the emotional influence they hold over us is near insignificance. It's almost as if we have begun to distrust the correlation between the things we believe will bring us success and things we believe will bring us happiness.
Why cant they be one in the same? Don't we have the ability to apply the same passionate energy, as we do to another single individual, to ourselves? We've lost the concept of self-importance out of our need to be loved, our need to be accepted, and our fear of not having those things. We've placed the fuel to our self-esteem outside of the self, not allowing self love and self-importance to serve that purpose. We've devalued the idea of being comfortable with ourselves, not allowing it to serve as the primary factor in how we determine our self-esteem or our self-worth. We've placed our cause of rejection and heartbreak within the hands of others. In doing so we've lost control of our own emotional well-being and we're forced to suffer such heartbreak in order to relearn how to love ourselves.
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